How do I find the love of my life?
Before getting into a relationship, it is important to make sure that
the one you may be interested in, is the one you will be with until
marriage. So many people go through multiple relationships, leaving
each broken, torn, and hurt. You MUST make sure that you are dating
your future wife! This is a simple checklist I made to ensure my next
"special someone" is going to be the one I spend my life with till
death due us part.Practical Stanards for Finding the love of my life1. Is she a Christian? (2 Cor. 6:14-16)
a) Can everyone tell?
b) Is she excited about her faith?
c) Does she have a Passion for God, and does she live it?
d) Does she hold the same core beliefs & morals you do?
e) Will she challenge you and help you in your Spiritual growth?
2. Do you get along with her, and enjoy spending time with her?
a) Similar Interests?
b) Cool Personality?
3. Do her future plans line up with yours? (goals, careers, ministry)
a) Where does she think God is taking her?
b) Where do you think God is taking you?
c) Do both line up? honestly?
4. Do you know her really well?
a) Have you seen her at Home, School, Church, with friends?
b) Is it consistent at each pleace?
c) Have you seen her at her worst? (stressed, frustrated, angry)
d) How does she respect Parents? Friends? Authorities?
5. Can you see yourself with the person, for life?
a) Make a list of the things that bug you about the person (be brutally honest)
b) Make a list of their bad character qualities
c) How big is your list?
If So Then:
1. If you are interested, do not make subtle hints, make an obvious direct hint
a) Go to her first, don't have her find out from her friends
b) Don't let rumous spread
c) Perhaps take her out for coffee, something casual, but very obvious
d) Be confident, but respect reaction after your "obvious hint"
e) BE HONEST. Be 100% completely HONEST.
2. Don't "ask her out", get to know them more, respect their thoughts on the friendship
3. Ensure your focus is on Christ, and that it will continue to be on Christ and getting to know Him.
4. Make sure you still "click", get to know her family, make sure they know who you are!
5. Consult someone close (Parents, Best Friend, Your Spiritual Leader)
6. Make sure you are absolutely crazy about her!
7. Ask her Father
8. Ask her
If Yes Then:
1. Ensure both of you have an Accountability Partner
2. Together develop your DETAILED "Dating Principles", write them out
a) Each keep a copy
b) Each Give a Copy to your Accountability partners
3. Regularly meet with Accountability Partner
4. Maintain personal devotions, and devos with her
5. Make sure every aspect of your relationship brings glory to God
And remember, this is just a checklist, make sure you are crazy about her as well ;), and PRAY WITHOUT CEASING!